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Are You Ready To Leave The Nest?

Here's how you can tell.

BY Agnes Amondi

May 19, 2023, 11:43 AM

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With the rising cost of living, unemployment and a growing population that is fighting for limited resources, the question of when a young adult should leave their parent's house remains to be contentious.

Even so, there is still a lot of pressure on us to have our own place and build our lives away from our parents. Some people argue that living with your parents limits you from taking responsibility and accountability as you are guaranteed food and shelter. 

That said, the truth of the matter is that moving out is not just about you not living in your parent's house anymore. It demands financial and mental stability with the former being a huge hindrance for many young people. 

Is There A Right Age For You To Leave?

Some people argue that you should start living on your own as soon as you graduate from high school. In yesteryears, some people were kicked out of their homes and had no option but to fend for themselves and live on their own.

Others got a good job and as soon as they could, they left while some are still living with their parents. Society dictates that by your-mid twenties, you should have sorted your life which means that you are able to live on your own.

When Your Finances Are Intact.

Truth be told, you have to have money before you move out. Not just money to pay the rent but also other expenses. All of your furniture for your new place and everything else you’d want thereafter. This is not a step that you can skip because you will find yourself having to go back to your parents.

When You Badly Need Privacy.

At some point in your life, you will want to have space to do as you wish. It gets agitating when you have to explain where you are going and coming from every single day, explain where you got the money to buy one pair of shoes when it's evident you need it and so many other things. You yearn for the freedom to explore things without question and do as you please. 

When You Want To Date Seriously.

We know how difficult it is to bring him to your parent's house and have to tell white lies just to cover everything up. You are unable to explain where you are going or who you are always talking to on the phone.

You have to turn down numerous dating requests or time them for when your parents are not around and return before they do. In short, staying with your parents is hindering your chances of finding love. When you have your own space, you can invite people and go out whenever you want to which gives you the opportunity to pursue him.

When You Want To Boost Your Social Life.

This is basically a follow-up to the above. Again, being in your parents' home restricts you from going out as often as you would like which in turn limits your social space. Our parents have a weird way of judging our friends and normally, it’s based on their physical looks. 

If they wear some makeup, they are judged to be a bad girl, if they have long nails, they are thought to be spoiled and if they are opinionated, they are deemed to be disrespectful. This might end up isolating you from your circle of friends.

When You Are Over & Done With The Rules.

Remember that scene in Nicky, Ricky, Dicky & Dawn when their parents tell them “My house my rules”? Yeah! I bet you’ve been told that in the course of your childhood. 

And because you are now suffocating under such mantras, it’s time for you to find your own place so that it can be “your house, your rules” such that even when your parents visit and they want you to arrange your house like theirs, you can turn down their suggestion, politely obviously and quietly say in your head “my house my rules”