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You Need A Strong Wing Woman

And other secrets of adult friendships

BY Joan Thatiah

Jan 06, 2023, 11:47 AM

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I know, I know. Adulting is a scam. Someone should have warned us. Now that we are all stuck here trying to keep the many bits and pieces of our lives afloat, every adult woman needs a girl squad. You know, that group of friends who may or may not know each other who help keep her in check.

Here are five types of friends who will make adulting so much easier for you.

The Roomful Of Opportunity One

Everyone has a degree these days. It has become that much harder to land a good job or business opportunity on this side of the word. This is why you need a business-savvy friend. The one who knows where those tenders are coming from, the one who’s in five chamas and will not hesitate to mention your name when she steps into a room full of opportunity. 

Unfortunately, this woman will be quite busy hopping from one meeting to the other and may not be available when you need to vent about how you caught Brayo flirting with the light-skinned woman from upstairs. That’s alright. You are smart, you know that no one person can meet all of your needs and you have a whole squad.

The Straight Talker

You want a friend who thinks your sense of style is perfect, who loves all your boyfriends, and is your biggest cheerleader no matter what you are doing, right? What you need is the opposite. You need one woman in your life who serves you the truth as it is whether you like it or not. The one who will not hesitate to call you out on your bullshit. There will be times when you don’t like her very much but this woman will keep you on the straight and narrow.

The ‘Fuck it!” Friend

You like to think you have your shit together. You are well put together, never lose your cool in public and if Marvin, your boyfriend of four years, decides that he wants to begin seeing the new girl at his office, you take it all in your stride, feel what you need to feel in private before you can show your face to the world.

Girl, you’re too serious. You need that woman who lives like she doesn’t have a care in the world on your squad. The one who will let you unravel after a breakup, who will drag you for an impromptu fun weekend out of town just because. She helps you let your hair down every so often. You need her.

The Wing Woman

The dating scene is a jungle. You know this. You need a woman whose goal every time you go out is to make sure you get laid. She will be the flirty type, has sharp wing-woman skills, and is not embarrassed to distract the loud obnoxious guy so you can get to meet the cute, soft spoken brother. Just don’t forget to be her wing-woman when it’s her turn to take a shot at someone she likes.

The Unlikely Friend

Is there a woman in your life whose friendship with you people around you can’t understand? She may be half your age, twice your age, super-rich, or just from a different world. Hold onto her. Life with her might seem like one long culture shock but the lessons you learn from her, you can’t learn from anywhere else. How boring would life be if we were all raised in one small village? Think about it.

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