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Questions You Need To Stop Asking Mothers

We don't need to be reminded about our duties.

BY Agnes Amondi

May 12, 2023, 09:49 AM

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A lot of people, whether they know you or don’t know you are just a bit curious about your life. We’ve all been on the receiving end of questions we’d rather not deal with because, for the most part, some of them are rather intrusive. 

We are used to getting these, especially when it pertains to our marital status and motherhood. From the time you are a child, the thought of motherhood is hammered into you and you are always being prepared for it. 

If you thought the questions will stop after you’ve popped one more baby, you are wrong. More and more will keep coming. What you need to realise is that you can never please everyone. 

That said, it is quite stressful and painful to put up with these questions. In this post, we share some questions you need to ask mothers.

How Do You Handle Everything?

This is one of the common questions mothers face. People are usually in awe if you can still run your life after giving birth. As tough as it can be, sometimes, it implies that motherhood is debilitating and mums will be sick and tired of hearing this question all the time. 

What Are Your Goals Now?

I’m sure by now you know that you can desire motherhood and still have personal ambitions outside of it. Yes, you will have to do this with your kids in mind but with careful planning, mothers are able to carve out a life away from their children. In any case, it is advisable to do this because one day, the kids will grow and leave your house. 

What Do You Do All Day?

Stay-at-home mums and housewives have heard it all. From accusations that they lack the ambition to them letting their men put a foot on their shoulders, their capacity and place in the world have always been questioned. 

Their work to keep the family running and everyone else first is underappreciated. When you come home and you find tea or coffee available to drink or dinner prepared, your clothes washed and ironed, do you think it all happened by chance?

Mind you, someone asking this question is paying or in future will be paying for some daycare to look after her kids.

When Is The Next Baby Coming? 

When you don’t have a baby, the question is always ‘When will you have a baby?’ We tend to think that once we’ve had one, people will stop asking.

So, when are you having another one? Don’t you want to give your husband a boy? For women who have girls or vice-versa. 

The odd thing is that if you go ahead and increase the size of your family, you will still be questioned about your priorities. How will you look after all of them?

Who’s Taking Care Of The Babies?

Mothers aren’t allowed to have fun. As soon as you step out of the house, everyone thinks you have abandoned the kids. It is a question that fathers don’t contend with because the assumption is that kids stay with their mothers. 

Just so you know, it’s not easy for mothers to leave their kids with their relatives. Instead of making them feel more guilty than they already do, let them let loose. 

Do You Really Want To Be A Mum?

LOL! It’s already too late to ask that question because the baby is already here. No one has it figured out so let any new mom find their path. 

There’s no manual to becoming a mother or a parent for that matter so it will be much better if you provided actual support. If you can’t, it’s OK.