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Obvious Signs Of Dry Spell In A Woman

What happens when you don't get some?

BY Mercy Kipchilat

Feb 06, 2023, 07:37 AM

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Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, going through a dry spell is quite normal, and although long dry spells might have some noticeable effects on some aspects of your life, the effects are easily manageable and they shouldn’t worry you.

Here are a few obvious signs of a dry spell in a woman. If you have been having any of these signs lately and you are wondering what the hell is wrong with you, you should take comfort in knowing that it’s all probably because you just haven’t gotten laid in a while.

Increased Irritability

Studies show that having good sex is a good way to relieve stress as it releases Oxytocin hormones which counter high levels of Cortisol (primary stress hormone). 

If you haven’t gotten any in a long time, there is a chance that your stress levels could go up. As a result, your frustrations could make you more annoyed, impatient, and angry at little things that wouldn’t normally bother you. 

Lower Quality Of Sleep

Another sign of a dry spell in women is struggling to fall and stay asleep at night.  

When you have an orgasm, your brain releases a bunch of happy chemicals including dopamine (the feel-good hormone) which makes you feel satisfied, more motivated, and assertive; Oxytocin (the love hormone) which makes you more trusting of people around you and lowers stress and anxiety; and endogenous Opioids which help your body to control pain.

A combination of these hormones can make you feel relaxed and enjoy a good night’s sleep. They can also help to boost your creativity and imagination.

If you are not getting any, it means that you are missing out on the benefits listed above and your sleep patterns as well as your creativity could be affected.

Skin Hunger

Another sign of a dry spell in a woman is a craving for skin-to-skin contact and it doesn’t even necessarily have to be sexual.

A dry spell will have you longing for hugs and cuddles and you might find yourself lingering a little longer when someone offers a hug or sniffing your ex’s dirty sweater that he left behind.

Missing An Ex

Suddenly missing your ex that you have no business missing and having the urge to text or call him is another sign that your dry spell has probably lasted for way too long.

For some reason, a dry spell can cloud the judgment of even the best of us; add a glass of wine into the mix and you will probably be regretting your life choices the next morning. 

Everybody Looks Attractive

Another clear sign of a dry spell in a woman is that you might crave intimacy so much that you lower your dating standards dramatically.

If you find yourself gazing longingly at a stranger across the street and imagining how your life would be with him, or if you suddenly consider giving a chance to that annoying guy who has been pestering you in your DMs then that’s probably just the dry spell.