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Do Women Cheat As Often As Men?

Reasons why women may choose to cheat

BY Jedidah Wanjiru

Apr 30, 2022, 11:19 AM

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This question has brought about a lot of debate among both men and women, because no one wants to be labeled as the bad guy. The fact of the matter is, women cheat as much as men do. The only difference is, when a woman does, it is thought through, it is with someone they might have a history with, or might want a possible future with, if their current relationship doesn’t work. As for men, they cheat with the next beautiful and attractive woman that fancies them. 

One thing that I will never understand is, why cheat? What is the motivation behind it? Is it that hard for a person to be faithful to their partner or significant other? Is it hard for one to end the relationship, if it’s not working, than cheating on them? It is quite unfortunate that my questions will always remain questions because no one has a definite answer for them. 

Even though it might not be really clear, there are a reasons why we women can choose to cheat and here are a few.

Revenge

Well, you know how we women are when it comes to revenge. We never let go of a wrong that was done to us. I have personally not let go of something that was done to me when I was 18. I am 27 years old at the moment, so this is just proof of how us women never forget something that was done to us, even years after, or a wrong done to us. We just find it hard to let go. So, if my boyfriend decides to cheat on me and I find out, this might be a good enough reason for me to cheat as well, so that we can be even. The pain that comes with finding out that someone you love and trust has betrayed you, can make you do something you never ever thought you would, like cheating, because it is just not fair. 

Attention

It is not a secret that we women love some attention. So if your significant other or partner is not giving you the attention that you deserve, don’t you think that you will lean towards the person who is? That is how we end up in entanglements. There is a feeling that comes when someone acknowledges how beautiful you are, how smart or intelligent you are, how curvy you are or how an amazing person you are. If my boyfriend does not say such things to me and make me feel like I am the only girl in the world, and some other guy happens to, you know, s**t happens. I might just find myself flirting with him to the point that one thing leads to another. 

Desire

There is a reason why I am in the relationship that I am in with my boyfriend. But if certain needs are not met, then I will look for somewhere they will be. That is the current mentality that many women have.  Now, it is hard to find everything in a relationship. There could be love but there is no money. There could be money, love but there is no excitement in the bedroom. For this reason, a woman will go looking for what there isn’t. I will keep it 100 here. Nowadays, many women don’t want love if there is no money. That is a stand that they are taking. I personally don’t believe that but that is just me. I have grown up seeing my parents build each other and I found that beautiful, so that is what I am in to. However, that is not the case for a lot of women in this century. So if they find a man who is good in bed, has money, showers them with love, then that is a jackpot that they have hit. But for those who are already in a relationship because of love but they desire more in terms of money, they will go looking for someone with money, to satisfy their desire. 

It is quite sad to see the direction that a lot of relationships are headed because of this. I would rather leave a relationship than cheat on my significant other. It is not fair and it is not the right thing to do. I wish we could all do that, leave and not cheat. This is because after that, the relationship is never the same, trust me.