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5 Things I Wish I knew On Becoming A Woman

Because adulting doesn't come with a manual

BY Pauline Katethya

May 23, 2023, 07:14 AM

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We are in such a hurry to grow up only to get here and realize that adulting isn't as easy as it looks. Not by a long shot.

We thought having to make our own decisions was the best thing that could happen to us, but it turned out to be the worst. You have to make every single decision. From which type of toilet paper is good for you to which type of milkshake flavor makes you happy.

Adulthood is hard. It doesn’t come with a script that says 3 ways to make your adulthood easy. Or something of the sort. Life was so much easier when responsibilities were few. But what do we say? Here is the downside of being an adult. 

You Have No Idea What You Do For Fun. 

Someone asked me the other day what I do for fun and save for sleeping, I couldn’t come up with something else. I didn’t even know whether I had answered their question, but that’s when I realized how boring adulthood can be

It’s so easy to get caught up with life that some things automatically take the back seat. Sometimes it gets so bad that you forget to slow down and breathe. I guess this explains why many people prefer staying at home on weekends rather than going out. 

Your Body Stops Cooperating. 

Do you remember those days when you could eat whatever you wanted? Oh my! Those were the good old days. Now you can’t afford to do that because you are in constant conflict with your body. You want to keep fit, your body wants to get bigger. 

You want to look younger, but it has no problem looking a little bit older. So now you have to be more careful because even when you breathe in the smell of chicken, you might just add another 3 kilos. 

You Don't Know What Is Happening. 

With work, family, and responsibilities, life can get overwhelming. It’s easy to lose track of what is happening in the world. A friend and I were laughing the other day when we remembered how we used to make fun of our parents for missing out on things, but now we have become those parents.

There were times we were aware of the fashion trends, but now you look at someone wearing biker shorts and you wonder who came up with such dressing. At the time we knew all the latest series and movies, but now you have no idea what people are watching save for Bridgerton. 

You Sleep As Early As 9 PM. 

Saw a meme the other day that said, we used to be kids, but now we are dozing off by 9 PM and men did it hit hard. It made me remember the days I slept past 1 AM, but nowadays even on weekends, I find myself sleeping early. Sometimes you can’t imagine how and when you got here, but this is life. 

People Expect You To Have Life Figured Out. 

Being an adult also means you have to deal with a lot of pressure. People have certain expectations of you. Your family, your friends, and strangers too. If you are a woman, society will constantly remind you that you are running out of time, and your eggs are almost drying up.

It also means you have no room to make mistakes. There are people who look up to you and failing in something means you are also failing them. It's hard living in a world where everyone seems to know exactly what they are doing or can afford stuff, you can’t.

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