As people digest the survey that was released by the Kenya National Bureau of Statistics on the sexual behaviours of men and women, we keep looking into the finer print and bring you analytical pieces about it. We already published the first one. Read it here.
We also came across this post on a Nigerian website, "Body Count: 7 Reasons Not To Tell Him", and it definitely ties into the heated debate. As pointed out and some of you will know, there isn’t any real number you should aspire to even though some of them will be considered to be too high or too low.
So should you tell your significant other your body count? Well, we took a position and declared a hard no. Men are obsessed about this but there isn’t anything that comes out of it, especially for you which is why, if you read our recent article on sexual partners, we have provided a reason why women’s figures might be low and men’s high.
One of the reasons you should take this secret to the grave is because he wants to know so that he can put a number on you. If it is a nasty guy, he might even use it against you. He will compare you to his exes and if it’s too high, will deem you unmarriageable.
The other thing is that it’s not about learning about you and your past. Some men will throw this question in a hearty manner to soften you up and get you talking. They’ll even smile at you and pretend that they are fine but deep down, they are already making an exit plan. Sis, always be alive to the conversation and figure out when he is trying to trip you.
There are a lot of reasons why you shouldn’t really tell the guy you are seeing about your body count. Besides the ones we’ve listed above, here are other reasons why you shouldn’t reveal your body count.