African women are quite something! We have all these odds flung at us but we keep soaring.
This is why I absolutely love that we've finally safely boarded the #selflove and #selfawareness train because we finally realize that for all the love we give to others daily, we are deserving of the same - if not more - love!
Most of us know an awful lot about how to love others and how to take care of their needs, their feelings and even -much to our detriment - their egos. As women, not a lot of teachings in our community placed emphasis on being kind to ourselves earlier in our lives.
It wasn't until we realized just how unkind we had been to ourselves and how this, in turn, made it okay - and normal - for other people to treat us unkindly that we finally woke up and smelled the coffee.
My lecturer sometime in my varsity years said something I have never been able to get out of my head. He said that for every one negative thing you hear about yourself, you have to tell yourself something positive about five times repeatedly to erase its effect. I don't know where he got the statement or if it's backed by science and literature but I found it so profound.
Now that we've found concepts like manifesting and meditating on positive thoughts, affirming ourselves has become easier. The term "you create your own happiness" is finally tangible because sometimes it's really as easy as saying it and believing it.
Now there are a lot of wonderful affirmations one can adopt - in fact, there are apps available just for that. These are just some of the affirmations that will help you channel the queen in you.
You Are Not Too Old Or Too Late
I know that society is obsessed with timelines, so I want us to start here today, no matter how old you are, that dream is still attainable and don't let anybody tell you otherwise!
Right in line with the previous affirmation, you are absolutely worthy of everything dream - no matter how big, crazy or impossible it seems! Not to get all biblical on you but seemingly far-fetched dreams have been becoming a reality for many women since the beginning of time sis... Why would it be impossible for you?
You are love and you overflow with love, That's why the people in your life are extremely lucky to have you - especially the little (or no so little) human beings you created. But listen, you are your number one! I know it doesn't always seem that way but affirm it, you are your number one.
In your story, the Chuck Norris of it all is you. Not to make you self-centered and completely selfish and obnoxious but your world (not the world) really does revolve around you. It starts and ends with you. You matter!
We know that the world is a "big bad place' but that is not all that it is! It is also a wonderful place where happiness is possible and living our best lives is highly possible. No one said it would be challenge-free but all the queens know one thing for sure, and that is that eventually, things work themselves out and everything is gonna be alright - just like Bob Marley sang! So don't waste your time and peace worrying.
