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The Office Romance

Should you or should you not?

BY Joan Thatiah

Feb 08, 2021, 03:48 PM

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There are plenty of good reasons why you would want to date that fine new guy at the office. The office is as good a place as any other to meet new people, you spend lots of time there so it’s natural for sparks to fly. Plus, the world’s favorite power couple, The Obamas, met on the job. That should count for something, right?

Deciding to pursue an office romance is one thing, how to do it right is another thing altogether. Here are a few pointers so you don’t end up blowing your career.

Be very sure

Before you go on that coffee date, and especially before you kiss him, get the company guidelines out of the way. Be sure that you are not breaking any rules by being with him. I mean, you do not want to go on an unexpected job hunt in the middle of a pandemic. Next, be sure that the connection you have with this person is more than pent up sexual energy or a shared frustration towards your boss. You are not trying to have a one night stand with someone you work with. You know how messy that can get. You’re smarter than that.

Skip the drama

Women deal with relationship drama in different ways, some are reasonable and will seek out their partners in a private space and have a mature conversation. Others would rather cause a scene and air their dirty linen in public. They call it fighting passionately. We are not judging, it’s your relationship, do whatever tickles your fancy. However, if your love interest is also your colleague, you might want to tone down on the passion lest you both find yourselves out in the cold.

Secrecy won’t work

If you start seeing a guy at the office, your first instinct will be to keep it a secret. You are afraid of the raised brows and the unflattering titles that are likely to be slapped on you. The truth is that no matter how good you are at pretending you don’t like each other, someone will find out, and this will breed distrust in your other colleagues. Also, if you are putting your job on the line, you want to have a real relationship, not one you have to lie about.
Being honest about your relationship doesn’t mean having full-blown PDAs in the office. No one wants to see that. If you must flirt, tone it down.

Beware of the work email

Receiving naughty text messages and emails from that guy you just began seeing in the middle of the day is hot. By all means, do it. Just don’t use the office email. Just one wrong click and you will have everyone in your office in on your business. You don’t want that.

Plan for the worst

While it would be nice if all happy relationships ended in a long-term commitment, the truth is that some relationships end. Some relationships should end. Your new boyfriend may feel like the one you have been waiting for all these years but still, plan for the event that it doesn’t work out. If you are ready, you will be able to take it all in your stride and if not, you will fall apart. This is not good if you have to see him every workday.

Finally, as you do in all other romantic relationships, put yourself first.

Read: How To Fake It Till You Make it